Don’t Make Them Pay
One of the reasons we can share the bread and the cup with one another around the Lord’s Table in joy is because He is the Lord; we are not the lords and lordesses of one another. This is not to say that we don’t make judgments or have issues to work out between us, but it is to say that we all only have one ultimate, final Judge. Christ is Lord. This is His Table.
This reality enables us to hold things of great value to us, even our very lives, loosely because we cling to Christ tightly. We’re with Him, He who is “Lord and Savior” (2 Peter 3:18). Have you been sinned against? Of course you have, and often it is very painful. And remember, every sin that has ever been (or will be committed) either has been paid for (Christ’s saving work) or it will be paid for (Christ’s judging work). It is also true that none of the payments are to us, though for Christians, one of the payments was for us.
Either Christ satisfied the Father’s demand for righteousness when He suffered in the place of transgressors or Christ will judge in righteousness those transgressors with great and eternal suffering. There is no mixing, there is no missing. Jesus paid it all for every sinner who believes, or, every sinner who won’t believe will be thrown into the lake of fire.
Fellowship does get broken and needs to be restored. We sin against each other, and we’re given instructions for how to handle that, but it’s not by denying that our brother’s name is written in the book of life of the Lamb who was slain. Jesus paid for them, it’s wrong for us to make them pay. As for those outside the church, we still don’t make them pay, though we warn them that apart from Christ they will, because He is the one with whom we have to do (Hebrews 4:13).