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Jealousable Blessings

I read the following story at the ECS end-of-year assembly.


Abram and Harry stood before the judge, ready for it to be over. Neither one of them really doubted what the verdict would be, but getting to this point had seemed very difficult.

Abram Holloway had been the Mayor of Paterson for a long time. While he occasionally was called to testify as part of his civic role, he hadn’t ever been as antsy to hear a judge’s answer. Harry, even though he was only thirteen years-old, had been in courtrooms many times. He had barely known his mother and never known his father and ran away from his aunt’s house as soon as he could. For the last three years he had been living from house to house, getting into trouble, getting caught, and then getting to appear before a judge who would try to determine a new way to punish him. This day was different.

Finally, with all the formalities finished, the judge signed the papers and announced that Harry was now Abram’s legally adopted son.

Dad and son talked on their drive home, headed to a celebration party. “Do you think Ben will come home now?” Harry said. “Won’t he be excited to have a brother?” Abram caught Harry’s eyes, then looked out the windshield across an open field. Harry waited, and waited, until his dad said, “I love Ben so much, Harry, as I love you. But Ben is very angry right now. We’ll have to keep hope.”

Mayor Holloway lived in a large house on a tall hill just a few minutes south of the city. The property was a young boy’s dream. It had hidden spots for a curious boy to explore and open spaces for an active boy to kick balls back and forth. On the east side of the house grew a variety of trees that always smelled like good fruit. The orchard was so large that the mayor hired men from the city to come and take care of it for him, and the fruit was known in every neighboring county. On the other side of the house was a barn that housed horses, some sheep, and a couple dozen chickens who produced a crop of eggs every morning. These were all things that Harry could now call his own.

These were also things that Ben Holloway had called his own for seventeen years, but no longer.

It’s hard to imagine a son who had it better than Ben. Even though his dad was busy as mayor, his dad truly loved him and sacrificed to give him the best gifts. Maybe the best gift of all was time together, especially in the summer. Ben and his dad would backpack into the woods. They fished together at a nearby lake. Sometimes they caught fish, but mostly they didn’t worry about it because they preferred being loud and telling jokes to each other, even if that scared the fish away. Lemonade was a favorite hot weather drink, and root beer floats were a Friday night treat.

Abram was preparing his son for great responsibilities. He didn’t necessarily expect Ben to take over for him one day as city mayor, but he still had special plans in mind. Every week he told Ben about Ben’s inheritance, past and future.

“Your grandfather’s grandfather built the first house on this property. He felt called to this place.”

Abram promised Ben that one day the house would be his, the orchard would be his, the animals would be his, all of it his. As a child Ben always had a hard time not asking too often, “When will I get it?” And always his dad answered, “As soon as you are ready.”

Ben was a blessed boy. Harry was not.

Harry was an orphan, mostly. Both of his parents were alive, but neither of them wanted him. Harry had never met his father. As for his mother, she was the kind of woman who didn’t love anyone but herself, and she didn’t even do that very well. Harry somehow survived until his mother’s sister persuaded his mom to let Harry live with her and her husband.

Harry thought his aunt and uncle were weird, and strict, and their house smelled, so he ran away. When he showed up in Paterson, it didn’t take long before he found some other young trouble makers and joined in.

One of Harry’s favorite things to do with his middle school buddies was to mock Ben. Ben was an older 11th grader, but he was small for his grade-level. Ben was also an obvious target for envy. His dad was the mayor. He lived in a huge house. He seemed, at least to the other kids, to get whatever he wanted.

Harry had nothing, which meant he had nothing to lose. It was a small school, so even though Harry wasn’t in Ben’s class, Harry saw Ben enough to remind him to be angry. In the hallways or on the playground, Harry would make jokes about Ben in ways only lonely kids know how to do. Sometimes after school, Harry would say, “Go home, daddy’s boy!”

Harry got to meet a lot of the folks at City Hall. If Harry wasn’t getting caught stealing candy and Coke from the gas station he was getting caught throwing raw eggs at passing cars. None of his crimes were really that dangerous, but the police, and the city attorney, and the city judge (let alone the gas station owner and innocent drivers), were eager to change his course, and Harry had heard all the lectures.

The Mayor knew about Harry. Some of the stories going around City Hall were almost cute. There was the time when Harry spread peanut butter on every toilet seat in the school. There was another time when he wrapped five full rolls of duct tape around the mailbox at City Hall. Abram was concerned, but not quite sure how to help.

A few months later it was the Mayor who needed help.

A wealthy developer wanted to buy the community park near the center of Paterson. The developer wanted to build a large shopping center, which he promised would bring more business and jobs and money to the people. The proposal seemed perfect to some of the citizens who were struggling financially, but the Mayor wanted to protect the park.

The proposal eventually came to the City Council for a vote. The Council members were split, 3-3, leaving the Mayor to cast the deciding vote. He voted No.

The local newspaper began to print nasty articles about the Mayor. Some of the angriest citizens drove out to his house and burned many of the trees in his orchard, and broke down large sections of his fences. For weeks, any time the Mayor walked down the street of Paterson someone, and often, many someones, would shout and swear at him for his stupid decision.

People also started treating Ben worse wherever he went because they didn’t like what his dad had done. Ben wasn’t sure it was worth it. He asked his dad, “Why not just let the people have what they want? What’s so special about the park?”

Abram patiently answered Ben day after day, but rather than being calmed by his dad’s steady nerve, Ben grew angry himself. He was tired of being treated so cruelly for things he couldn’t control. He saw his dad as the problem, and his dad didn’t seem to care how it affected him.

“Why are you doing this to us?”

“Son, because it’s the right thing to do.”

So one morning after another heated argument, Ben had had enough. He cursed his father, cursed his stupid inheritance, and stormed out of the house.

Ben was a year too young to join the military, but he was old enough to get a job and rent a spare room on the other side of town, far away from his dad. He despised his life and blamed his dad for making him miserable.

Abram was very sad that Ben was gone. But there was no phone to call, and none of his letters received a reply. By now the people in the city had stopped threatening to hurt him, though they still weren’t happy and wanted another Mayor.

The one person who seemed to understand the Mayor Holloway’s grief was Harry. Harry saw the Mayor around City Hall and, though the Mayor wasn’t mopey, Harry thought he could use some encouragement.

One day Harry knocked on the door to the Mayor’s office. “Come in,” said the Mayor.

Harry entered. The Mayor said, “Ah, Harry. What trouble brought you in today?”

“I’m not in any trouble. I just came by to talk.”

“Not in any trouble?” the Mayor replied. Then he smirked and said, “You sure about that?”

Harry sat down and the two of them talked for the next half hour. Mostly they talked about meaningless things: the weather, baseball, each’s favorite kind of pie, things like that. But it was a nice break for both of them.

Harry returned the following afternoon. And the afternoon after that, until it became a daily occurrence. Sometimes the Mayor and Harry would walk over to the park and talk. On especially warm days the Mayor would buy Harry something cold and sweet from the ice cream truck. Harry was different. If you didn’t know better, you’d have said that the two of them were becoming friends.

And about a year and a half later, we get to the beginning of our story. Abram and Harry were standing before the judge, waiting to hear that they were now not just friends, but father and son.

But that was, after all, only the beginning.

Abram had not forgotten about Ben, but he gave himself to care for Harry as his own. They played pitch and catch until the sun went down. They shared lemonade and root beer floats. And now Harry slept in his own bed, knowing that when he woke up in the morning that he could come back to the same place at night.

The nights passed into months, and the months added up into years. Abram’s love for Harry started to grow good grades on Harry’s report card. Even more than that, Harry was becoming a young man who could be trusted, a young man who worked hard, a young man who was nothing like the fatherless kid from before.

After Harry graduated from college he took over running the orchard. The men who worked for Harry said they’d never had a better boss. The women who bought his produce said their families had never tasted anything so fresh. Soon he had such success with the profit from the fruit that he bought some nearby land and planted his own vineyard. Harry became known not just around the city, but around all of the neighboring towns as a blessed man.

During this time Ben was also advancing in his company, though not to the same degree as Harry, and also with none of the happiness. Of course Ben had heard about how his dad adopted another son. He also couldn’t help but hear about Harry’s successes in school and in work. At times it seemed as if Harry was the only subject people could talk about. “Did you hear about Harry’s new company?” “Can you believe how good Harry’s wine is?” “Are you going to apply for a job with Harry?”

Ben hated his dad more for giving Harry so many good things, and Ben hated that all those good things should have been his. But for as much as he secretly wanted to see his father, and for as much as he envied Harry’s success, he refused to go home.

As fall approached it brought both the harvest season and election season. The Mayor was running for office again, but during the campaign there were some new opponents who were so tired of the Mayor’s (good) governing that they hired protestors to follow the Mayor around. Whenever the Mayor had a public appearance, these people made such a disruption that no one could hear what the Mayor was trying to say.

One afternoon Harry came into the city to have lunch with his dad, but when he got out of his truck, the protestors started yelling at him. Harry tried to talk to them, not realizing that these men were paid to be unreasonable. The local news arrived with cameras and recorded the interaction. No matter what Harry said, the mob got more and more mad. Almost a dozen men attacked Harry. Unable to silence Harry with words, a few held his arms behind his back while others took turns punching him as hard as they could. No one stepped in to defend Harry as he defended his father. Eventually the mob got tired and left Harry lying on the sidewalk.

That night when Ben got home from work he saw what had happened outside of City Hall on the news. It was hard to believe that men would attack like that, but it was even more hard to believe that Harry had been so loyal. Ben had once been the target of shouting meant for his father, but Ben ran away and resented his father for it. Harry stood up for his dad like Ben never had.

Ben decided to visit Harry in the hospital. Though he had thought about Harry almost every day for the last twelve years, they hadn’t spoken since school. Ben wasn’t even sure what he would say when he arrived at the doorway of Harry’s hospital room.

“Come in,” Harry said quietly. “Come in, sit down.”

Ben entered the room but didn’t sit down. He looked at the many bandages and the IV, at both of Harry’s black eyes and swollen face. Ben’s heart beat hard as he asked, “Why didn’t you just get away? Or why didn’t you at least fight back? Why did you suffer like this for Abram?”

“Because he loves me. Because he took me as his own. Because he gave me everything I have.”

And Ben’s stony heart broke.

At that moment their dad walked in. Ben was already crying, but cried even harder when he looked at his dad and said, “I’m so sorry, dad. It should have been me standing up for you. I’m so very sorry. Can you ever forgive me?”

“How could I not? You are still my son.” And Abram stepped toward Ben and threw his arms around him and held him tight while Harry smiled at both of them from his bed.

As it turns out, Harry recovered and went home a few weeks later. Ben also returned home, and rather than being treated as an outsider as he expected, his dad started talking about his inheritance the same as when he was a kid. Harry’s vineyard was doing so well he didn’t have time to care for his dad’s business. So Harry built a big house of his own next door, got married, started having kids, and brought his pack over to Abram and Ben’s house every Saturday night for dinner.

As for Ben, he not only took over responsibilities on the property but also started working for his dad at City Hall. After a few years he was running for Mayor with his dad’s blessing, and after winning the election, he governed the town with a name to make his dad proud. The land, the fruit, the blessing to him and through him on the city was the inheritance promised by his dad long ago, and Ben was finally ready for it all.

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A Shot of Encouragement

Against Abortion and For Adoption

I aim to post something at least once a week against abortion or for adoption. It’s not because I have a platform. It’s not because it’s trendy. It’s because God hates evil and loves good, and so should all His people.

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Lord's Day Liturgy

We Love His Handouts

November is National Adoption Month and last Sunday was Orphan Sunday.

Adoption has been national news the last couple weeks, though, because the draft of the national budget proposed cutting what is called the Adoption Tax Credit. Since 1997 it’s been Federal law that qualified expenses in the adoption process up to a certain amount could be reimbursed by the government as a tax credit, which is even “better” than a tax deduction. The predominately Republican Congress cut the ATC from their budget drafts for this cycle sending every conservative, adoption-loving person I saw online into a conniption. “How in the world could they do this?”

It seems that all our campaigning/complaining has “worked” and, as of a few days ago, the ATC is back in the budget. So what I say next may be moot in more than one way. And while I may get stuck in the rhetorical mud, here goes. Whose responsibility is it to pay for adoption? The government?

I like adoption. I love adoption, our adoption by our heavenly Father and also enacted by earthly fathers. Our family adopted. We’ve talked about adopting again. We’ve given money to support other families who’ve adopted. We started and had a non-profit organization to raise money for adoption for a while. I attend adoption ministry meetings and orphan care summits on an ongoing rotation. Our church gives monthly support to a local adoption lawyer as well as an orphanage in India. I’ve preached about adoption in our church and for other churches, and will continue to do so. And I am opposed to the Adoption Tax Credit in particular and to the government’s financial responsibility to reimburse adoption expenses in general.

“But,” someone says, “the cost of adoption is too high for most interested families. We need this credit.” But, I say, shouldn’t we work to get the government to stop charging so much money for the adoption process in the first place? And certainly we would desire that the government not prohibit Christians and churches or non-profit groups from coordinating giving, sort of an adoption Kickstarter or GoFundMe. One family who gives willingly to another family that desires to adopt is great, and more personal, and Christian. And we would all have more money to do so if all our taxes weren’t so high. As it is now, every little fussy group wants to make sure the State gives them “their money (back)” for “their important thing” so we keep feeding big government and ceding them control.

There are layers to the problem, including how much it costs lawyers to get their education so that they can get government approval to bill clients for filling out the piles of government paperwork. There are other problems in the national budget, including the report that funding for Planned Parenthood remained even when the Adoption Tax Credit was cut. That is broken and wrong.

But nearer to the heart of the problem is the fact that Christians would rather have the government take care of the cost. And Christians prefer to depend on the government because we are selfish. This is yet another reason why we need to celebrate weekly communion because it is potent by God’s grace to raise our thankfulness rather than raise our expectations of what other people need to do for us. It reminds us of our Lord who came to serve not to be served. As Christians take that seriously, even things like the national budget (and federal programs and elimination of federal programs) would eventually, inevitably change. There is no reason for it to change right now because Uncle Sam knows that we love his handouts.

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The Fruit of the Womb

November is National Adoption Month and in this first week of the month elections took place across our country. It may be too much to tie together an exhortation to confess from these two threads, and yet they may be in a knot already.

When we worship God we not only see what He is like but also what He likes. More than that, we begin to like the same things. It is possible to study His interests without becoming interested in Him or the subjects, but we will not sing from our souls about Him having certain loves and then act as if our loving the same persons or things is inconsequential. The godly will be like the God they praise.

Our God cares about the fatherless. In Psalm 10 David celebrated that the LORD “will incline [His] ear to do justice to the fatherless and the oppressed” (verses 17b-18a). He “settles the solitary in a home” (Psalm 68:8). Widows and orphans are His cause (James 1:27).

So then must we also care for the fatherless. It may be providing permanence. It may be helping in transition. It may be working at prevention. It could be adopting, fostering, providing emergency care or respite care, or just helping financially in any part of the process.

We also ought to be voting for officials who will not kill our children before they are born (or kill our widows because they are a “drain on society”). How the wicked have been making men fatherless, not because men grow up without fathers, but because the wicked urge fathers to kill their kids. When men worship the god of their belly (more money and time for themselves) they hate the fruit of the womb. But God cares about them.

Our kids are not a hindrance to our fruitfulness, they are our fruitfulness. Until we get (or regain) that perspective, one that can only come as we worship God, our nation will continue to be barren and barbaric.

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Fostering Awareness

Last Sunday was Orphan Sunday. It’s not a holiday, though many churches observe it in the United States and in other countries. For that matter, November is National Adoption Month, at least here in the States. In both cases, the point is to make special effort to heighten awareness of year-round needs throughout the world.

As a church we support Andrew Schneidler and the Children’s Law Center of Washington. He is a lawyer helping make permanency possible for families that don’t have financial resources. We give him money each month and make supplication for him almost every Sunday. As a church we also took up support for the Good Shepherd’s Children Home in India through Kidstown International. Likewise, we send money and make prayers for the kids and for the leaders of that orphanage.

We’ve promoted (and run) in the Adoption Run for Antioch Adoptions. Some of us even organized an event a few years ago to cut adoption costs for a family desiring to take kids into their family. Last Sunday night we also made a large statement through a small party on behalf of the Hall family who are closer than ever to bringing in to their home some kids who don’t have a home, kids who don’t have a place or parents to parent them.

In less brochure-able ways, we are involved in orphan prevention. We do have the obligation according to James 1:27 to help widows and orphans. We also have the obligation to love our wives, respect our husbands, and not exasperate our children but raise them in the culture of Christ worship. It may be too dramatic to call that orphan prevention, but it is not too dramatic to call it obedience to God our Father. We are to lay down our lives for one another, for others, including little others.

From our homes, to Western Washington, to other continents, God created us to love others, especially those who are weak and needy. If we only love those who earn our love, those who make it easy for us to love them, then we do not realize how potent love like God’s is.

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Our Own Orphan Sunday

November 4th was Orphan Sunday. We planned to have Andrew Schneidler speak about The Children’s Law Center of Washington at TEC that day until I realized that I would be out of town. I’m glad we waited. For that matter, while I’m thankful for the Christians who have coordinated a campaign to raise awareness about the global need for fathers to the fatherless, we aren’t limited to raise awareness on one Sunday only. Not only that, we aren’t limited to raise awareness about only one issue. We ought to love all the things that God loves, but we can’t give attention to each one at the same time. Likewise, we ought to lament all the sins that God laments, the myriad of ways His heart is ignored. Again, we can’t do it all at once.

So we had our own orphan Sunday and, in some ways, every Sunday is. We were all orphans, all of us. We were born by a father who hated us from the beginning. He gave us his nature, his murdering, lying nature. Then he abandoned us to face the wrath for ourselves. Yet because his heart is so twisted, he loves to watch us act like him, because he knows it is the worst thing for us.

Then the heavenly Father sent His Son to earth to find and deliver many brothers. The Lord Jesus Christ is the ultimate adoption advocate, the ultimate adoption attorney, the ultimate adoption donor. He knew the legal requirements and fulfilled them. He paid the cost so in full so that we could be sons and daughters of God. He saved us and brought us into His eternal family and now no one can pluck us out of His hand. He’s given us new names, a new nature, and a new future. The Lord’s Table is full of the Father and Son’s food, and we’re invited as His adopted children.

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Take It to Heart

God wrote through the apostle Paul, “Believe the gospel.” God wrote through the apostle James, “Prove your belief.” In chapter one of his letter, James exhorted his readers to be doers of the word and not hearers only (1:22). He addressed three doings of doers in the very next paragraph, three works to watch to discover if one’s walk is worthless or worshipful.

First, “if anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless” (v.26). Second, on the positive side, “religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction” (v.27a) And third, God pleasing religion is also “to keep oneself unstained from the world” (v.27b).

The initial talking point is our talking. Whether or not we control our tongues matters. If we use our tongues to bless the Lord but curse men who are made in God’s image (3:9-11), there’s reason to be concerned about the source of the spring.

The third comment is about worldliness. Being stained by the immoral, unmerciful, bickering, self-centric codes of the world is a sign of spiritual adultery. It does not match a life of faith.

In between, James clarifies that we have immediate, temporal responsibilities to take care of those who cannot take care of themselves. Saying, “Be warmed and filled” comes out of dead-faithed mouths (2:15-17). So every Christian would-be-doer-of-the-word must care for orphans and widows if they want to be blessed. It doesn’t mean that every person must adopt a child or take home a widow, but it does mean that we must take to heart our responsibility to give ourselves and serve those in affliction. Otherwise, our words about obeying the Word are worthless.

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His Kids’ Table

We’ve all been to family events where the table wasn’t big enough to fit everyone. When I was younger, I remember throwing a fit (on more than one occasion) at being relegated to the “kids’ table.” Looking back, I think that the kernel of my desire to be included was good. What I failed to grasp is that was being included.

My parents could have left me at home, could have left me in the car, could have left me in the kitchen doing dishes. In order to be at the kids’ table, it meant that they brought me along, gave me a seat, and set a plate full of food in front of me. Why? Because I was their son. I was part of the family.

Slaves (and enemies) don’t get included like that. Paul reminds Christians of their family status in Galatians 4.

when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God. (Galatians 4:4–7 ESV)

God’s Son took on flesh, fulfilled the requirements of the law, and then sacrificed Himself on the cross so that we could be sons. Jesus paid the adoption costs and we are family.

The Lord’s Table is a good sort of kids’ table; it’s a table set for His kids. Believers are included in every way in His divine family. He brings us here, He provides for us, and it all confirms that an inheritance is ours. That inheritance is only for redeemed, adopted sons, and our Father wants us to mature into manhood so that we’ll be ready to receive it.

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Every Thumb's Width

Little Miss Red Shoes

I don’t always read Challies but, when I visit his site, I typically scan through his A La Carte links. A week ago he started with a post at Paradox Uganda about a young girl in Africa whom the author named “Little Miss Red Shoes.” She’s nine. She had gone to the police and then to the “casualty department” at the hospital to report being raped by a 15 year-old neighbor.

I have a nine year-old daughter. She wears Mary Jane style shoes, too. I can’t imagine if she were in a similar situation.

Read the story and “please pray for JUSTICE, for Little Miss Red Shoes and the countless little African girls (and others all over the world) who are raped, beaten, blamed, sold.”

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Wait No More

There are many ways to adopt and/or care for widows and orphans. There are so many, actually, that many people who desire to do something may not know where to start. Here is one opportunity. Right now, there are approximately 130,000 kids in US foster care. There are 10,000 kids in the Washington state foster care system and between 1,000 and 1,500 of those kids have no legal parents and want to have them, meaning, they want to be adopted. There are also over 5,000 churches in Washington state. It seems as if Christians could do something. Enter the Wait No More event on September 24. From 1:00-5:00pm on Saturday, at Overlake Christian Church in Redmond, Focus on the Family is arranging information and agencies to get families in the process to adopt kids from the foster system. Here is a one minute overview video.

Washington Wait No More Promo Video

Focus on the Family has already held eight events in seven other states (two in their home state of Colorado). They only go to states with significant interest and existing infrastructure to make things happen. They are spending their own resources to build trellis, organizing placement agencies and state officials and churches, not only to make the needs known, but also to recruit families to adopt. The event is free, however they do ask that people register so they can have enough materials for all who attend. 1:00-3:00pm will be a gathered time for education and motivation. Then, from 3:00-5:00pm, there will be time to interact with many of the ministries and adoption agencies. Those who are interested will be able to sign up before they leave and will be contacted soon therefore for the next steps.

Adopting through the foster system isn’t for everyone. For that matter, adoption, whether through foster or private or international, isn’t for every family. But loving the unloved and dying to bring life is. Here is one opportunity, where other people are spending all sorts of effort to build trellis that we can utilize. Additional things you can do:

  1. Read Adopted for Life by Russell Moore, a fantastic resource about adoption in general.
  2. Visit 127adoptions.org and/or read Chuck Weinberg’s blog that tells their family’s story of adopting from China.
  3. Talk with Esther about serving at the 127 table on Saturdays. Those of you who follow her on Facebook already know some of the updates and that info is now on the church website as well.
  4. Email me with questions about adoption or about the event itself.
  5. Pray for attendance and interest in the Wait No More event.
  6. Register and attend, or tell others about, the event: icareaboutorphans.org