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Jealousable Blessings

I read the following story at the ECS end-of-year assembly.


Abram and Harry stood before the judge, ready for it to be over. Neither one of them really doubted what the verdict would be, but getting to this point had seemed very difficult.

Abram Holloway had been the Mayor of Paterson for a long time. While he occasionally was called to testify as part of his civic role, he hadn’t ever been as antsy to hear a judge’s answer. Harry, even though he was only thirteen years-old, had been in courtrooms many times. He had barely known his mother and never known his father and ran away from his aunt’s house as soon as he could. For the last three years he had been living from house to house, getting into trouble, getting caught, and then getting to appear before a judge who would try to determine a new way to punish him. This day was different.

Finally, with all the formalities finished, the judge signed the papers and announced that Harry was now Abram’s legally adopted son.

Dad and son talked on their drive home, headed to a celebration party. “Do you think Ben will come home now?” Harry said. “Won’t he be excited to have a brother?” Abram caught Harry’s eyes, then looked out the windshield across an open field. Harry waited, and waited, until his dad said, “I love Ben so much, Harry, as I love you. But Ben is very angry right now. We’ll have to keep hope.”

Mayor Holloway lived in a large house on a tall hill just a few minutes south of the city. The property was a young boy’s dream. It had hidden spots for a curious boy to explore and open spaces for an active boy to kick balls back and forth. On the east side of the house grew a variety of trees that always smelled like good fruit. The orchard was so large that the mayor hired men from the city to come and take care of it for him, and the fruit was known in every neighboring county. On the other side of the house was a barn that housed horses, some sheep, and a couple dozen chickens who produced a crop of eggs every morning. These were all things that Harry could now call his own.

These were also things that Ben Holloway had called his own for seventeen years, but no longer.

It’s hard to imagine a son who had it better than Ben. Even though his dad was busy as mayor, his dad truly loved him and sacrificed to give him the best gifts. Maybe the best gift of all was time together, especially in the summer. Ben and his dad would backpack into the woods. They fished together at a nearby lake. Sometimes they caught fish, but mostly they didn’t worry about it because they preferred being loud and telling jokes to each other, even if that scared the fish away. Lemonade was a favorite hot weather drink, and root beer floats were a Friday night treat.

Abram was preparing his son for great responsibilities. He didn’t necessarily expect Ben to take over for him one day as city mayor, but he still had special plans in mind. Every week he told Ben about Ben’s inheritance, past and future.

“Your grandfather’s grandfather built the first house on this property. He felt called to this place.”

Abram promised Ben that one day the house would be his, the orchard would be his, the animals would be his, all of it his. As a child Ben always had a hard time not asking too often, “When will I get it?” And always his dad answered, “As soon as you are ready.”

Ben was a blessed boy. Harry was not.

Harry was an orphan, mostly. Both of his parents were alive, but neither of them wanted him. Harry had never met his father. As for his mother, she was the kind of woman who didn’t love anyone but herself, and she didn’t even do that very well. Harry somehow survived until his mother’s sister persuaded his mom to let Harry live with her and her husband.

Harry thought his aunt and uncle were weird, and strict, and their house smelled, so he ran away. When he showed up in Paterson, it didn’t take long before he found some other young trouble makers and joined in.

One of Harry’s favorite things to do with his middle school buddies was to mock Ben. Ben was an older 11th grader, but he was small for his grade-level. Ben was also an obvious target for envy. His dad was the mayor. He lived in a huge house. He seemed, at least to the other kids, to get whatever he wanted.

Harry had nothing, which meant he had nothing to lose. It was a small school, so even though Harry wasn’t in Ben’s class, Harry saw Ben enough to remind him to be angry. In the hallways or on the playground, Harry would make jokes about Ben in ways only lonely kids know how to do. Sometimes after school, Harry would say, “Go home, daddy’s boy!”

Harry got to meet a lot of the folks at City Hall. If Harry wasn’t getting caught stealing candy and Coke from the gas station he was getting caught throwing raw eggs at passing cars. None of his crimes were really that dangerous, but the police, and the city attorney, and the city judge (let alone the gas station owner and innocent drivers), were eager to change his course, and Harry had heard all the lectures.

The Mayor knew about Harry. Some of the stories going around City Hall were almost cute. There was the time when Harry spread peanut butter on every toilet seat in the school. There was another time when he wrapped five full rolls of duct tape around the mailbox at City Hall. Abram was concerned, but not quite sure how to help.

A few months later it was the Mayor who needed help.

A wealthy developer wanted to buy the community park near the center of Paterson. The developer wanted to build a large shopping center, which he promised would bring more business and jobs and money to the people. The proposal seemed perfect to some of the citizens who were struggling financially, but the Mayor wanted to protect the park.

The proposal eventually came to the City Council for a vote. The Council members were split, 3-3, leaving the Mayor to cast the deciding vote. He voted No.

The local newspaper began to print nasty articles about the Mayor. Some of the angriest citizens drove out to his house and burned many of the trees in his orchard, and broke down large sections of his fences. For weeks, any time the Mayor walked down the street of Paterson someone, and often, many someones, would shout and swear at him for his stupid decision.

People also started treating Ben worse wherever he went because they didn’t like what his dad had done. Ben wasn’t sure it was worth it. He asked his dad, “Why not just let the people have what they want? What’s so special about the park?”

Abram patiently answered Ben day after day, but rather than being calmed by his dad’s steady nerve, Ben grew angry himself. He was tired of being treated so cruelly for things he couldn’t control. He saw his dad as the problem, and his dad didn’t seem to care how it affected him.

“Why are you doing this to us?”

“Son, because it’s the right thing to do.”

So one morning after another heated argument, Ben had had enough. He cursed his father, cursed his stupid inheritance, and stormed out of the house.

Ben was a year too young to join the military, but he was old enough to get a job and rent a spare room on the other side of town, far away from his dad. He despised his life and blamed his dad for making him miserable.

Abram was very sad that Ben was gone. But there was no phone to call, and none of his letters received a reply. By now the people in the city had stopped threatening to hurt him, though they still weren’t happy and wanted another Mayor.

The one person who seemed to understand the Mayor Holloway’s grief was Harry. Harry saw the Mayor around City Hall and, though the Mayor wasn’t mopey, Harry thought he could use some encouragement.

One day Harry knocked on the door to the Mayor’s office. “Come in,” said the Mayor.

Harry entered. The Mayor said, “Ah, Harry. What trouble brought you in today?”

“I’m not in any trouble. I just came by to talk.”

“Not in any trouble?” the Mayor replied. Then he smirked and said, “You sure about that?”

Harry sat down and the two of them talked for the next half hour. Mostly they talked about meaningless things: the weather, baseball, each’s favorite kind of pie, things like that. But it was a nice break for both of them.

Harry returned the following afternoon. And the afternoon after that, until it became a daily occurrence. Sometimes the Mayor and Harry would walk over to the park and talk. On especially warm days the Mayor would buy Harry something cold and sweet from the ice cream truck. Harry was different. If you didn’t know better, you’d have said that the two of them were becoming friends.

And about a year and a half later, we get to the beginning of our story. Abram and Harry were standing before the judge, waiting to hear that they were now not just friends, but father and son.

But that was, after all, only the beginning.

Abram had not forgotten about Ben, but he gave himself to care for Harry as his own. They played pitch and catch until the sun went down. They shared lemonade and root beer floats. And now Harry slept in his own bed, knowing that when he woke up in the morning that he could come back to the same place at night.

The nights passed into months, and the months added up into years. Abram’s love for Harry started to grow good grades on Harry’s report card. Even more than that, Harry was becoming a young man who could be trusted, a young man who worked hard, a young man who was nothing like the fatherless kid from before.

After Harry graduated from college he took over running the orchard. The men who worked for Harry said they’d never had a better boss. The women who bought his produce said their families had never tasted anything so fresh. Soon he had such success with the profit from the fruit that he bought some nearby land and planted his own vineyard. Harry became known not just around the city, but around all of the neighboring towns as a blessed man.

During this time Ben was also advancing in his company, though not to the same degree as Harry, and also with none of the happiness. Of course Ben had heard about how his dad adopted another son. He also couldn’t help but hear about Harry’s successes in school and in work. At times it seemed as if Harry was the only subject people could talk about. “Did you hear about Harry’s new company?” “Can you believe how good Harry’s wine is?” “Are you going to apply for a job with Harry?”

Ben hated his dad more for giving Harry so many good things, and Ben hated that all those good things should have been his. But for as much as he secretly wanted to see his father, and for as much as he envied Harry’s success, he refused to go home.

As fall approached it brought both the harvest season and election season. The Mayor was running for office again, but during the campaign there were some new opponents who were so tired of the Mayor’s (good) governing that they hired protestors to follow the Mayor around. Whenever the Mayor had a public appearance, these people made such a disruption that no one could hear what the Mayor was trying to say.

One afternoon Harry came into the city to have lunch with his dad, but when he got out of his truck, the protestors started yelling at him. Harry tried to talk to them, not realizing that these men were paid to be unreasonable. The local news arrived with cameras and recorded the interaction. No matter what Harry said, the mob got more and more mad. Almost a dozen men attacked Harry. Unable to silence Harry with words, a few held his arms behind his back while others took turns punching him as hard as they could. No one stepped in to defend Harry as he defended his father. Eventually the mob got tired and left Harry lying on the sidewalk.

That night when Ben got home from work he saw what had happened outside of City Hall on the news. It was hard to believe that men would attack like that, but it was even more hard to believe that Harry had been so loyal. Ben had once been the target of shouting meant for his father, but Ben ran away and resented his father for it. Harry stood up for his dad like Ben never had.

Ben decided to visit Harry in the hospital. Though he had thought about Harry almost every day for the last twelve years, they hadn’t spoken since school. Ben wasn’t even sure what he would say when he arrived at the doorway of Harry’s hospital room.

“Come in,” Harry said quietly. “Come in, sit down.”

Ben entered the room but didn’t sit down. He looked at the many bandages and the IV, at both of Harry’s black eyes and swollen face. Ben’s heart beat hard as he asked, “Why didn’t you just get away? Or why didn’t you at least fight back? Why did you suffer like this for Abram?”

“Because he loves me. Because he took me as his own. Because he gave me everything I have.”

And Ben’s stony heart broke.

At that moment their dad walked in. Ben was already crying, but cried even harder when he looked at his dad and said, “I’m so sorry, dad. It should have been me standing up for you. I’m so very sorry. Can you ever forgive me?”

“How could I not? You are still my son.” And Abram stepped toward Ben and threw his arms around him and held him tight while Harry smiled at both of them from his bed.

As it turns out, Harry recovered and went home a few weeks later. Ben also returned home, and rather than being treated as an outsider as he expected, his dad started talking about his inheritance the same as when he was a kid. Harry’s vineyard was doing so well he didn’t have time to care for his dad’s business. So Harry built a big house of his own next door, got married, started having kids, and brought his pack over to Abram and Ben’s house every Saturday night for dinner.

As for Ben, he not only took over responsibilities on the property but also started working for his dad at City Hall. After a few years he was running for Mayor with his dad’s blessing, and after winning the election, he governed the town with a name to make his dad proud. The land, the fruit, the blessing to him and through him on the city was the inheritance promised by his dad long ago, and Ben was finally ready for it all.

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A Shot of Encouragement

Three Spheres

As disciples of Christ we can develop our:

  1. Personal Obedience
  2. Doctrinal Beliefs
  3. View of the World

Mixing It Up

We could love obedience and studying the Word but still act like God didn’t say that what He made on earth was good.

We could love obedience and love all creation but still elevate a system’s authority over the Bible.

We could love the biblical Covenants and love creation but still be a jerk.

Of course we could also just have one, or none. Or have baby versions of any or all.

A Loves Trifecta

We could have and develop all three: Heart x Head x Hands, and our jealousability would be not just good and better but at its best.

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Lord's Day Liturgy

Speckled, Spotted, and Strong

How can shepherds work to increase the jealousbility of their flock?

I was thinking about Jacob’s third deal with Laban, in which Laban agreed to give all the speckled and spotted sheep and goats (and black lambs) to his son-in-law (Genesis 30:32-33). Laban, deceiving the deceiver, took away the speckled and spotted (Genesis 30:35). But as Jacob shepherded, he set up peeled sticks at the watering places, and “the flocks bred in front of the sticks and so the flocks brought forth striped, speckled, and spotted” (Genesis 30:39). Then he started only laying the sticks in front of the stronger sheep, “so the feebler would be Laban’s, and the stronger Jacob’s” (Genesis 30:42). (For an interesting take on why this worked, check out this journal article.)

That story does not have deeper/spiritual meaning, but I do think it’s interesting as an illustration for another principle.

We, as sheep of the Chief Shepherd, come to behold Him by faith week by week in worship and especially at the Lord’s Table. We are transformed by beholding His glory (2 Corinthians 3:18), including the glory of His love and sacrifice on the cross. So we are made strong, Scripture by Scripture, song by song, prayer by prayer, communion by communion.

The Shepherd of the sheep is kind to give us life and have it abundantly (John 10:10).

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Lord's Day Liturgy

Jerks and Jealousy

Fire can be life-sustaining, useful for a variety of applications, plus beautiful. It can also kill you. Jealousability has some fire-like similarities.

There is a kind of forest-firey jealousability that can jump the road into insufferable arrogance. While I’d argue that this is actually just arrogance and not true jealousability, a man using jealousable vocabulary might still try to argue that it’s virtuous even if a bunch of others get burned. Blessings must be a reason we boast in the Lord, not ourselves.

And since we’re not boasting in ourselves, we also ought to be able to rejoice when others are blessed by the Lord. This is part of diverse jealousability. You will be called to boast in the Lord in various ways, and those might be different than how others are called by the Lord. This connects us in a way that makes the body jealousable not just an individual member.

Let me sum up both of these dangers: 1) Don’t be a jerk. 2) Don’t be jealous.

Being jealous that someone else got something you think you deserved is not jealousable on the individual level and spoils things at the assembly level. Acting better than others and being bitter against others are provocative, but not for good. Constantly keeping score with others on your team shows that you aren’t playing for the team. “Love does not envy or boast” (1 Corinthians 13:4). Jealousy goes with quarreling (2 Corinthians 12:20), strife and rivalries (Galatians 5:20), and disorder (James 3:14).

I have temptations toward being jealous, less about possessions and recognition and more about productivity energy/time to accomplish things. But then I think about how many emails the ones I look at must get, and give thanks for what I have and for their fruitfulness. I think about how many more criticisms they face, and give thanks that mine are limited.

Keep jealousy out of your jealousability.

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Favorite Infections

There is no true jealousability without repentance from sin. Jealousability, as Paul talks about it in Romans 11, belongs with salvation blessings, and salvation begins with repenting.

Repentance is required for true jealousability for at least two reasons: systemic and apologetic.

You cannot try both to keep a favorite infection and pursue a healthy body. Your whole life is connected no matter how much you try to compartmentalize. And while one angle might look jealousable, it can’t be maintained. For that matter, our lives as a church body are connected no matter how much time you spend alone. If you love your sin, defend it, feed it, refuse to turn from it, you are affecting the rest of our health. But also if you confess it, repent from it, there is benefit for us all.

The apologetic reason is because part of the work of jealousability is magnifying God’s blessings, and it shouldn’t surprise you if someone says, “So you think you’re better than me.” You are pointing out what looks like privileges, and they are. But your privilege starts by knowing you aren’t precious. This is what glorifies God not you. You have nothing that you didn’t receive, and everything you did receive isn’t because you are worth it.

You aren’t perfect, but unlike that watching neighbor, you’ve repented, and God promises salvation for those who repent and believe in His Son (Acts 2:38).

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Jealousable Moms

There is jealousability as an idea and ideal, there is jealousability on the ground. There are jealousable cultures, there are jealousable kitchen tables, with clean floors underneath them, even though the “olive plants” around it (Psalm 128:3) haven’t mastered their hand-mouth coordination.

Wiping faces (joyfully in Jesus’ name) is jealousable. Making cookies for class parties is jealousable (or buying them at Walmart because your 3rd grader told you about it at breakfast). Disciplining bad attitudes, with patience and consistency, is jealousable. A lot of kids would be a lot better off if they had that.

Everyone has a mom, and these are common tasks (though not commonly done). What makes them jealousable? What gives a woman a jealousable reputation, even after her kids are gone, even when she’s a widow (1 Timothy 5:10)?

A jealousable woman, and especially a mom, ironically makes others look good. That’s why her husband is known in the gates; she does him good. That’s why her children rise up and call her blessed; she fed and clothed and cleaned her little people. She brings them up (1 Timothy 5:10) in love (Titus 2:4).

Turns out, this is one of the reasons that truly jealousable moms often make other moms jealous of the kids, as if the mothering didn’t have anything to do with the kids’ good behavior.

It’s possible for a man to recognize a jealousable mom, in fact, sons should intentionally be taught how to do it. Proverbs 31 is quite a jealousable list, given by a mom to a son, who was a king, who would know the qualities of an excellent queen, not just for the nation, but for his home.

So we’re thankful for ladies who make being a mom look good, as they confess their sins and manage their households and set their hope on God (1 Timothy 5:5).

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Jealousable Salt

The word jealousable may not get past the dictionary gatekeepers but it gets to the point. There are other serviceable words we could use, but we want the punchy ones, the ones that provoke a response. Jesus didn’t use the word, but He had a potent verbal picture that should flavor our thinking.

The second main heading in His sermon on the mount was about salt. “You are the salt of the earth” (Matthew 5:13). This verse is among my top five rants about bad Bible reading. Somehow preachers have been successful at ruining the entire point by saying that salt is a preservative. Sure, salt was used in the first century to cure/preserve meat. But Jesus doesn’t even finish His sentence before explaining what He means by salt. “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored?”

There’s no denying that when disciples of Christ obey in a pack they keep the level of group morality from downgrading. But again, what Jesus actually says is that disciples are a savor, an appetite maker, a tongue pleaser. What a disciple of Christ should not be is tasteless, forgettable.

So what kind of person is salty? What characterizes a person that provokes interest?

I can’t recall if I’ve ever made this connection before. It also comes from better Bible reading. Salt is the second main heading, right after the first main heading: the blesseds. There are nine blesseds, the so-called beatitudes. The blesseds include those who mourn their sin, who hunger for righteousness, they show mercy, they make peace, they are persecuted and have lies told about them and they rejoice because their reward is great in heaven. More blessed, less bland.

The way to be tasteless is to be like those who have nothing other than what’s on earth, to love your sin, to act entitled, to fight with others, to complain, like every boring person apart from Christ.

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Jealousable Adorning

Most discussions on modesty are like a drive-thru covid test: obnoxiously uncomfortable, mostly useless, and leaving a bitter memory. But as with respiratory viruses, we do need to build up our immunity, not an immunity to immodesty, but against always being offended when hearing someone talking about modesty.

Warm weather is not the problem, though it does have its own set of temptations. I’m bringing up the subject not just because we’re on the cusp of summer, but also because it’s a great, practical test case for jealousability.

The Bible has a good amount to say about what we wear, and actually, a whole bunch of New Testament specifics are about what women should and should not wear (for example, 1 Timothy 2:9-10 – includes the word κοσμέω – adorn; 1 Peter 3:3-4 – includes the related noun κόσμος – adornment). It’s also of note that God gave the instructions about it through men, even if older women taught younger women in practice.

Which brings me to the first problem: the men. It’s not men in their lust for pleasure, it’s men in their lust for (superficial) peace. Because we’re thinking about this at a high level, the ones who are responsible for modesty first are husbands and fathers, as instructed by pastors. Shoulder to shoulder with the patriarchy is the pastorarchy.

When you’re out shopping you can rank outfits on the scale of father hunger. “Modest is hottest” is a contemporary Kraft cheese jingle like only Christians can create, except that a person who is loved is more attractive. Our clothes should show that we’re receiving attention already, not that we’re desperate for attention. A whole community of loved people are a beautiful people, and what is desirable is not just the beauty, but the stability and intention that went into it. That is jealousable.

There are a myriad of adorning decisions, each and every day. If you wonder where you can make a difference, let there be a difference in what you wear. Let others lust over the love you obviously received that adorns your heart and covers your parts.

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Lord's Day Liturgy

A Jealousable Move

Paul used the language of purposefully provoking others to jealousy in Romans (10:19; 11:11; 11:13-14). I’ve talked about it as an adjective: we want the saved to be jealousable. You don’t need to use the language, the point is about having the life. A jealousable Christian recognizes God’s blessings and rejoices in those blessings in such a way that others would want them. At the college we schedule “jealousable events.” It reminds us that by God’s grace, from salvation on out, we have it good. Thankfulness is right and it is strategic. Joy is a gift of God that has gravity.

In practice it’s not always a smooth experience. As Christians we are not glorified yet so we don’t always rejoice with rejoicers. Comparison can compel us to go to God for blessing and it can also create conflict, provoking a sort of jealousy that annoys and irritates rather than attracts.

What blessings to another might we get bent out of shape about? It could be any blessing. Maybe they worked their field and saw a sixtyfold return and you only saw thirtyfold (think Matthew ). Maybe they’ve taken more responsibility and more authority has flowed to them because of it. Maybe they’ve been given a greater measure of faith and giftedness (Romans 12:3-8). Maybe they are being used like a clay pot and all sorts of life is growing up around the grace spilled from their pot (2 Corinthians 4:7-15). “Death is at work in us, but life in you” (verse 12). Maybe you want to see similar glorious life growing around you but aren’t willing to put in the deaths.

It appears that God is blessing our assembly with property and building. More than that, He is blessing us with an opportunity of increased responsibilities—there is more to do, not less—and a way to love a place into greater loveliness. It is a way to increase the footprint of the assembly’s jealousability.

This exhortation is going to be on the nose: don’t be wrongfully jealous. We will not be jealousable if we are jealous of one another. If we envy or boast, if we insist on our own way, if we are irritable or resentful, if we are suspicious and discontent and competitive over drawer space, this is not love (see 1 Corinthians 13:4-7). One way or another we will be a witness to Marysville. We’ll either do it in a way that makes others want in, or that provides confirmation to them about how petty church people can be.

Husbands, pay attention to the complaints of your wives. Many of our ladies are around more because they aren’t committed to another place for employment. Maybe the men are less involved, less concerned about the ways the space is used or the colors on the walls; you have your own responsibilities and property. Don’t let your household tear down the house (Proverbs 14:1), spiritual (1 Peter 2:5) or physical.

We are clearly being jostled, hearts and the assembly. But this is an opportunity to be more jealousable, and it has to start with thanks in our hearts for the eternal and tangible blessings.

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Lord's Day Liturgy

When You’re Jealous

One slander against the early church regarded their Lord’s Supper celebrations. Those outside the church heard words such as “love feast” (a term used in Jude 12) and figured that the Christians were doing all sorts of inappropriate things when they got together. What else do you do when you’re jealous? You make it sound as if the other person who has what you want doesn’t deserve it or isn’t using it right.

Our weekly communion makes men mad. They think, usually to themselves, “Hey, we want to eat with God, too.” They say, “You should not be so comfortable doing it so often.” Or, “This is not supposed to be a time of gladness no matter how thoughtful you claim to be.” Or, “Certainly some will abuse it and participate unworthily.” These criticisms often come from those who wish they could have the gladness they criticize.

We do not eat and drink joyfully because we deserve it or because we have it all figured out or because we refuse to be serious about our sin. We eat and drink joyfully because God has dealt seriously with our sin, putting our judgement on His Son, and inviting us to believe the good news of eternal life. We eat and drink joyfully because of grace we cannot manage. It is fearful how much He loves us, and it is wonderful. If that opens us up to slander and hatred, we should not be surprised and we should tell them that they can have it too by faith in Jesus.