
by Douglas Wilson
Our church is hosting a Parenting Tune-Up day this coming Sunday. The tune-up analogy works in a lot of ways. It’s not collision repair, but it’s check on some of the basic systems that keep things running.
I’ve talked about parenting a lot, and not just because I’ve been a parent for 23+ years. When I started as a youth pastor almost 30 years ago a lot of the work was thinking about family relationships, not just how any particular teenager was behaving.
Anyway, I started reading the Doug’s book, Keep Your Kids, a month or so ago. Pastor Wilson has a lot of books about the household, and I have benefited from all of them even when there’s been significant overlap.
Keep Your Kids is one of his newer volumes on the subject, and while it did have some reminders, he also deals with some more current issues as well that I found, as usual, edifying.
Maybe the thing I was most surprised by was an entire chapter on the modern usage and expectations related to EMPATHY (all rise), Chapter 3 – “Empathy and the Clowns.” The demands for affirmation of one’s sad feelings without any questions, let alone pushback, are a unique addition to parenting challenges in our social-media world. Wilson has some good warnings for parents to consider, especially not jumping into the sentimental quicksand with their kids so that they can actually help their kids back onto solid ground.
As parenting books go I’d give this one lots of stars. Is it the only one you need? No. Is it helpful for your own parenting tune-up without needing to leave your house? Absolutely. I gladly recommend it.








